Here's the thing

Thursday, September 12, 2013

Remember a few weeks ago when I got all crazy thinking that when the kids both went off to school in the fall I'd have so much more time to myself? Yeah...I don't know what the hell I was thinking there.

A lot has changed since I wrote that post about being bummed out.

Let's see, oh, husband lost his job. And then we moved- the weekend before school started.

So we're in a different city and state.
The husband just started a new job.
The kids both started new schools.
And I'm running around like a chicken with its head cut off most days.

Here's the thing- we're staying with my parents right now, and we're completely OK with it. Is it something I love to broadcast to the world? No. But that's the reality of our situation, and we are actually much happier where we're at now. We are so fortunate to have this option and not have to "stick it out" where we were at any longer. We were all pretty unhappy there and didn't really want to invest anymore time into trying to make it work.

Now, we're closer to family (that's putting it mildly- we're VERY close to family now!) and so far it's working out just fine for everyone. It's not forever though, and we aren't the first people in the world to have to do this. (If it feels like I'm reassuring myself of this I totally am, because it's hard not to feel like a loser or something when you're 29 and have to move your entire family back into the house you grew up in!). Seriously though- it's not a big deal. Anyone in this type of situation shouldn't feel like they are a loser, and I've had to realize that sometimes it's OK to need help, right? Our situation is just temporary while my husband gets busier at his new location and builds up his clientele again. In the meantime, we're saving money and enjoying not being so isolated and far away from everyone we know. Most of my closest friends live within 30 minutes of me now, and the same goes for Shayne. We have a much better support system here and I can already see a huge improvement in my own mood. And the kids get to see Grandma & Grandpa every day now, rather than just 2 or 3 times a year.

And another huge perk- my husband no longer hates his job!
So yay for that.

Having to send your husband off to his job everyday knowing he absolutely loathed his place of work wasn't a great feeling, and I hated the fact that he had to put up with so much crap there. It took all of my self control not to waltz in there before leaving town and give them all the finger.

A perfectly manicured finger, that is, since I just got the entire fall collection sent to me from the lovely people at Gelish MINI!!!
Look for some upcoming posts about the new Gelish MINI colors!
Anyone else ready for Fall to get here?
My boots sure are!


  1. We are in very similar situation with parents...after I lost my job. It isn't ideal, but one can do just about anything temporarily (I have to keep telling myself that it isn't permanent!)!!! I'm glad your husband has a job he loves now. Sometimes, it take a major blow to show you what all is truly important.

  2. We're going to be in the same boat here in a year when we have to transition out of military life. And I'm not bummed at all..I'm so happy to be able to stay with Nick's mom and help her out around the house. I'm excited that we'll get to see them every day instead of once or twice a year. :)

  3. I am too! Gah my boots and hoodies are begging to get out!

    Glad you guys are happy again and your def not a loser because if you are then I am and we all know that isn't true! ;)

  4. glad that things are good and working out!!!! that is great your kids can be around grandma and grandpa alot too, that helps!!! so is your hubby still tattooing?

  5. Glad to hear everything is looking up. Living with family does not make you a loser! I lived with my mother-in-law for almost 10 years while we went to school and it was some of the best times of my life. She helped so much and we had a lot of fun. And she always said she was grateful that she was able to help, so I bet your parents feel the same!

  6. If you're a loser then I am a loser..After living on our own for almost 10 years we just moved in with my mother in law. Nobody lost a job but we were living in a one bedroom apartment paying $1500 a month in just rent and we needed to upgrade to a two bedroom with our daughter and that would have been $1800 a month and at that price we couldn't save for a home. So we packed up and moved in my mother in laws and pay half the rent we were paying so now we can save and it also helps her out because the extra $ is helping her pay her bills. So everyone makes out. I feel like especially nowadays this is more and more common. You gotta do what you gotta do.

  7. oh cool where is that?? I have to say your tatts are pretty amazing and his work is awesome!!!!

  8. haha. I bet :) My MIL has fibro and she has a lot of animals and a large house to take care of (and she does it pretty much by herself while working 60+ hours a week), so I can't wait to be there to let her get a little relaxation. Plus I couldn't see NOT helping while she's nice enough to let us stay with her.

  9. Situations come up, but you have to ultimately do what's best for you and your family. If that means moving in with family for the time being, so be it! Family's there to help one another out when things get rough. You're very lucky to have such a great support group. I'm glad things are working out with your husband's new job, as well. :)

  10. Hey, just stopping by as a random reader. I just wanted to share with you that your situation isn't weird. Really, people shouldn't feel ashamed to live with their families, in other countries and cultures it's a very normal thing. I wish our culture would stop putting so much pressure on young people and families to make them feel uncomfortable about living at home, it's kind of insane in this economy to think that every young person and family should just be able to afford a $1000-2000/mo home, isn't it? Considering how many people are still out of a job these days.
    Also, people who make others feel uncomfortable about their living situations probably have or have had their own share - or else they just don't live down here on Earth with the rest of us. I've known couples who don't even sleep in the same room at night or only have the luxury of their own abode thanks to the help of mommy and daddy. Personally, I love living with my mom and plan to have her always with me wherever I go, because I love her more than anything - and that ain't nothing to be ashamed of!


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