Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Date Night!

One thing that's been seriously lacking in my almost 7 year marriage has been time with my husband away from our kids, AKA date nights. 

2013 is going to be the year that I force us to make this a top priority. Sounds simple enough for some people, but not for me. I always feel guilty about spending money on date nights. First off, there's the actual date, which can range from inexpensive (if you're creative) to pretty extravagant if you're thinking dinner, drinks, movie, a show, etc. Then at the end of the night there's the babysitter. Oh, you have Grandma and Grandpa just a few minutes away who are always down to babysit for you? I hate you. OK, not really. But I'm really jealous. Do you know how much a sitter costs for two kids these days? It's not cheap my friends! We don't have family nearby, or anyone really, to help us out at all with our kids when we need a break.

I found this love note on the fridge earlier this week.
 See? Still in love! Just in desperate need of some time alone together.

Your husband & wife relationship needs to be a priority for the sake of your children and for the sake of your marriage.

Don't get me wrong, I love spending time all together at home. It's one of my favorite things to do.
 But every mother and father need and deserve time away from the house, away from the kids, unplugged, having fun and thinking about something besides the children.  My kids aren't babies anymore. They're independent. They don't have attachment issues. They don't need mommy with them 24/7. This idea used to frighten me and still makes me sad sometimes, but after a while it will become easier and more natural. Most importantly I need to remember this: it's OK to spend the extra money on a babysitter to give myself and my husband a much deserved break together.

So that's exactly what we did on Thursday.

Here's what I wore:

Here's what we did:
Dinner & drinks at a local sushi place.

The husband started the night by ordering a shot for me (Washington Apple I think?) Something girly. I gagged it down after 2 attempts and about 10 minutes later I was giggly and eating sushi with my fingers. We hung out there for a bit and I ordered a lemon drop martini with our dinner. Dinner was OK...not the best I've had there but the sushi was great. (Oh, and I did my random act of kindness there for the 52 Weeks linky party- read about it here). By the time we were done there we were both tired and ready to call it a night, so we headed home and watched a movie together.

All in all, a great date night with my husband! It was short and sweet and just what I needed to ease my way back into having a life outside of the home. I felt pretty and special and adored, and I loved getting to focus my full attention on our conversation, food, and my sexy hubby of course! Even if it was just for a few hours.

Next time we are hoping to plan it out a little more, so we're both on the lookout for a fun event, show, concert, movie, etc coming up for our next date night. Our goal is at least one date per month. Hope we can stick to it!

5 comments:

  1. I feel your pain with the babysitter!! I get so bummed/bugged by people that have sitters locally!

    Sitters are expensive!! Date nights are too! Totally needed though. David and I definitely need to have more once we have a bit of money again.

    Ps, HELLO HOTTIE!!! ;)

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  2. Every year I say MORE DATE NIGHTS! And we don't. I need to make them happen twice a month this year.

    p.s. I made the easy chicken enchiladas you posted a while back last night. They were delicious! I put them up on my blog today and linked to the original post and to you for introducing them to me. Thanks!

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  3. I'm not a parent, but I agree that the marriage needs to be a priority. It will set an example for the children one day when they get married.
    I can also appreciate you wanting to give your kids time to do things for themselves. I was raised by very strict, hovering parents (long story) and I think it kept me from developing and learning to socialize normally.

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  4. what a fun date night!!! And cute outfit!!! I can't agree with you more of the importance of date nights!!! They really mean ALOT to us married people... it's hard to spend that much $$ on a sitter, but getting out with the hubby means its worth it!!!!

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  5. date nights are a must for sure:) glad you got one

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